"A Life Without
Self-Confidence Isn't A Life!"
by Joe Fermano
How many times have you heard this: "Life is a numbers game;…the
more times you try something the better the odds of achieving it."
It’s no different with self-confidence. The more self - confidence
you have the more times you’ll try to do something. The law of
averages tells us you must achieve more, if you’re trying more.
More, more and more,…the more self-confidence you have the less
you’ll be affected by temporary setbacks(never final ,always
temporary) and short-term disappointments. The more self-confidence
you have the likely it is that you’ll live a life full of
achievement, riches, satisfaction and pure bliss.
So, how do you get started on your self-confidence journey? Well,
one of the basic fundamental things you must understand is your
uniqueness! Quite simply….., you are EXTRAORDINARY!! The odds are
greater than 50 billion to 1 against their ever being anyone with
the unique combination of talents, skills, and abilities that you
possess. The unbelievable achievements that you’re capable of,…. no
one knows, not even yourself. What we do know is that your greatest
areas of achievement come from your areas of strength, that once
identified and capitalized upon will bring you infinite success. The
men and women who achieve the most are invariably those who have
taken the time to identify their strong points and continually
refine them.
KEY POINT:
For many years I’ve been fortunate to experience and work with
people who’ve learned the SECRET!….Exploit your strengths and starve
your weaknesses. Yes, of course there is more to it than this but
not much more. "WE ARE WHAT WE THINK ABOUT!" That which you focus
on,….your heart will follow. The things you are interested in are
indicative of who you are. So, the things(KEY POINT) you are
interested in are the things you should be doing more of. A most
enlightening study was conducted several years ago. This study
involved 1500 men and women who started out very ambitious and
motivated in their careers. They found that only 83 of them became
millionaires. When they went back and studied the attitudes and
decisions of these people, a common denominator was evident amongst
all 83 millionaires. KEY POINT: They found that every single
millionaire chose a field (career) they enjoyed!! In essence they
lived their bliss! They worked in a field that always interested
them and constantly held their attention. The conclusion of the
study showed that wealth, success and happiness seemed to occur when
a person was pre-occupied doing something else. The 83 millionaires
never set out to make lots of money. Instead they chose fields that
they were completely passionate about. The MONEY came after they
devoted themselves to their chosen endeavor wholeheartedly and
truthfully.
REMEMBER THIS!!!!! You’ll never really be happy or satisfied
until you can apply your unique God given talents toward the thing
you LOVE to do. When your not where you want to be, you’ll know it.
You feel discontentment, uneasiness and unhappy. To enjoy high
levels of self-confidence you must be living your life in a way that
challenges you, stretches you and makes you grow. The only
successful way to achieve this is to do what you are naturally
comfortable with.
GOOD NEWS! The good news is your discontentment and unhappiness
are blatant signs for you to step forward and live a life of being
you(pure bliss)! The important thing to recognize is how unsatisfied
and unhappy you really are. Once you step out of your dull "go through
the motions life" …and into the life that’s YOU,…you’ve begun to
live the first day of your "exciting" life. Once you are true to
yourself and follow your HEART you will find integrity. When you
understand integrity and how it relates to you the real you has
arrived!
YOU MUST! You must make up your mind to look at you honestly and
make future decisions based on your uniqueness. NOW! TODAY! THIS
VERY MOMENT is time to realize how extraordinary you are. The
feelings you have along with your behavior is the most accurate
guide you’ll ever need to make the right choices. As you follow your
heart to where it leads you,…courage, integrity and finally
SELF-CONFIDENCE will automatically become apart of your every action
and thought. HEY!!!!! Believe me I know that its scary to follow
your heart. Most of us are extremely fearful to follow our true
feelings. Its not that we don’t know what to do,..its that we’re
afraid to do what our hearts tell us to do. But when you take it
step by step gradually building yourself up (like a muscle) you’ll
step farther away from your fears,…and then SELF-CONFIDENCE settles
in!
GOOD STUFF!!!!………Realize your gift, act upon it and your
self-confidence WILL rise so high that there are virtually no
limitations to what you won't try. As we discussed earlier, the MORE
you try the MORE you achieve,…the MORE you achieve the MORE
SELF-CONFIDENCE you will possess!!!
MAKE IT A GREAT DAY!
JOE FERMANO